At its core, Thanksgiving revolves around eating together, family members, and talking. But when a loved one is struggling with hearing loss, they might feel isolated at the mealtime gathering, even surrounded by people who care.
While it may not seem like the “right time” to address something so personal, a holiday gathering can actually be a gentle, supportive moment to open the door to a conversation about hearing health.
Why Thanksgiving is a perfect time for this conversation
During meals, people share personal anecdotes, tell jokes, and exchange life updates. A person with untreated hearing loss may find this conversational environment both frustrating and isolating. If you’ve seen a family member withdrawing from conversation, asking for things to be repeated often, or failing to hear correctly more than usual, Thanksgiving might be a prime moment to acknowledge your concern with empathy and support.
The benefit? The people they trust most are already present, making it easier for them to feel supported rather than called out.
Steps to modify the environment for less challenging talking
Small environmental modifications, made before you start to talk, can boost your loved one’s comfort and confidence level during the event.
- Lower background noise. Keep songs or the TV volume low to help reduce auditory distractions.
- Be mindful of seating. Place your loved one in the center or near people they communicate with most easily.
- Ensure good lighting, as well-lit areas allow people with hearing loss to more easily observe lip and facial movements.
- Inform close relatives privately that you plan to discuss the topic supportively so they can offer empathetic support.
Applying these straightforward adjustments will ease communication barriers and help reduce the emotional pressure of talking about health.
How to approach the topic without causing discomfort
The focus of a productive discussion should be on care and support, not on correction. Don’t let the conversation become a command like “you must fix this problem.” Gently state that you’ve noticed their hearing difficulties and offer help, emphasizing that you are not criticizing.
“It’s wonderful that we are together today, and I hope you are enjoying every moment. I’ve noticed you struggle to hear at times. Has getting your hearing tested crossed your mind?”
Let them talk. Give them time to respond. Your loved one might express relief that the issue was addressed, or they might reject the idea outright. No matter what happens, avoid pushing the matter. Offer your support and revisit it later if needed.
Offering encouragement and helpful information
If your loved one is open to the idea of exploring solutions, be ready with a few helpful, non-intimidating recommendations:
- Discuss hearing evaluations, clarifying that a hearing test is an easy and non-invasive procedure.
- Normalize the idea by comparing hearing aids to glasses; both are tools that improve quality of life without negative stigma.
- Offer to go with them. Often, knowing they’re not alone makes the most impact.
- Underline the advantages: improved relationships, reduced stress levels, and a boost in self-assurance are all outcomes of better hearing.
Your objective is not to fix everything right away in this one conversation. Instead, aim to plant a seed of support that has the potential to grow.
How this season of gratitude can be a step towards healthier hearing
Thanksgiving is a time to be grateful for the people we love, and sometimes that means having significant conversations that lead to a more fulfilling life. Raising hearing loss may be awkward at first, but in a familiar and supportive setting, it can help your loved one feel recognized, supported, and prepared to move forward.
If you have a loved one is having trouble with their hearing, consider opening up the conversation during this Thanksgiving holiday. The result could be a truly life-changing difference.